your first letter...

Even though I love talking to you personally, the circumstances have obliged us to use other means to keep in touch and not letting our friendship to fade away.
It has been a few weeks since you have been gone and I already feel it has been a century.
I have to confess that it gets harder for me knowing how many difficulties you are facing in this new time of your life; that is why I have decided to start writing to you hoping to help you go through all those things that cause sadness and fear and to let you know, more than ever that you are not alone.

How can someone feel so lonely when surrounded by people was your question in our last conversation, you said you have met many interesting people but for some reason you cannot connect.

I have seen this so many times, I have experienced it myself, emotional loneliness not always is attached to social loneliness, we might be having continued interaction with others without creating any kind of closeness and that takes us to the isolation feeling.

You might agree with me that it is absurd that in our times people can feel dispatched from others, in a time of technology, easy means of communication, social networks etc we seem to be growing apart, that is definitely sad.

The truth is dear, that everyone needs at least one person who support us, someone who, we know, loves us and cares about us honestly, when we don't have that person or we "believe" or "feel" we don't have that person, it will cause pain and again loneliness.

You might be feeling bad right now but it can be just a superficial feeling led by the new life you are starting, or it may be something serious, so let me ask you some questions:
Do you have any physical change? Like in your appetite, sleep, behavior or reactions?
Have you felt you are becoming shy, quite or lonely?
Have you been depressed or sleeping a lot?
I am asking you this because those things could tell us how serious your condition is so we can work together in the solution for you situation.

I want you to be careful ok? In the need for removing that feeling from your life you can develop emotional dependencies by getting attached to people who show you a little acceptance and company and who could become the center of your life if you are not careful. I want you to know that no-one and nothing could remove that feeling successfully without causing more pain and damage. For example if you decide to start drinking, or smoking, even using drugs or making out with anyone, at the end the consequences will be worst than the cause.

So what do you do you might be asking? Well I will write you soon about it... As for now just think about what I just wrote, and hang in there... I am here!

Be careful!
Your friend in this side of the world

Diana!